Internal misalignment happens in many ways. The most prominent version is when you think one thing but feel another.
Thoughts point one way. Feelings point a different way.
When your thoughts pull you in one direction, but your feelings pull you in another, you are experiencing internal misalignment. Your feelings prevent you from committing to your thoughts. Your thoughts prevent you from committing to your feelings.
Your thoughts undermine your confidence in your feelings. Your feelings undermine your confidence in your thoughts. Round and round. Back and forth. Up and down. Every way but forward!
All internal misalignment operates by the same fundamental mechanics.
Desire pulls one way, willingness another.
Principle pulls one way, preference another.
Dream pulls one way, belief another.
Hope pulls one way, expectation another.
Truth pulls one way, opinion another.
Vision pulls one way, regret another.
Purpose pulls one way, comfort another.
Those are the simple misalignments, the obvious ones. They get more difficult.
Truth pulls one way, desire another.
Empathy pulls one way, honesty another.
Responsibility pulls one way, security another.
Integrity pulls one way, acceptance another.
Change pulls one way, belonging another.
Before you rush to the question, “How do I create internal alignment?” stay in self-awareness mode.
- When have I felt these before?
- Am I feeling any of them now?
- Where and when?
- How is my internal misalignment affecting me (practically, emotionally, relationally, or experientially)?
- Does anything make it impossible for me to have internal alignment?
We’ll stay on track tomorrow by identifying more complex versions of internal misalignment, how we experience them, and how they affect us.
PS - If you have any questions or comments on this topic, reply and let me know. I am always curious to hear what you want to know!
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