Build your entire life on cause & effect.

In physics we understand every action creates an equal and opposite reaction. Cause & effect.
In behavior we need to understand the outcomes created by different actions. Cause & effect.

What does complaining vs responsibility create?
What does fear vs courage create?
What does defensiveness vs discipline create?

What does a sarcastic vs empathetic tone of voice create?
What does autopilot vs intentional listening to a young person create?
What does skipping vs doing a workout create?

Understanding cause & effect may be the most valuable skill that is most frequently ignored because humans are amazing at rationalizing their behavior.

Embrace the chase. Do the work.