My natural approach to most things is competitive. It‘s one of my strongest lenses. A fun and useful skill I’ve developed is to view things competitively without making it a win/lose competition between me and someone else. It means looking for value and advantage that doesn’t come at the expense of others. Where can I create strategic competitive value that doesn’t undermine anyone else?
I prefer not to win at the expense of others, unless it’s a specific and directly competitive situation we’ve chosen to participate in like a game. In that setting I want to compete, dominate, and win. No lie. In other settings I want to compete, gain as many advantages as I can, and use those advantages to help people win.
Yesterday I mentioned that the list of 14 Mental Traps That Hold People Hostage has immense personal value. They not only prevent you from being the best version of you, I believe they prevent you from being the real version of you, which is the best version of you. It’s not competitive at all. It’s 100% personal.
When I use my competitive lens though, I see something bigger. I see relatively easy value to grab and massive advantage to be gained if I can avoid or overcome those 14 Mental Traps. Where others get defensive, I want to be accountable. Where others back away, I want to engage. Where others sit in comfort, I want to push forward.
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