I remember telling my mom when I was 14, "Once I get my driver's license and a car, I'll never be bored again."
Well, I eventually got my driver's license and a car. Still got bored.
In college, I told myself, "Once I graduate and get a job that pays money, I'll be more disciplined."
I'm slow to learn some lessons. I graduated and got a job that paid money. It took me a few more years to discover and develop the discipline I needed.
When I was single, I told myself, "Once I find the right woman, marriage won't be the challenge everyone makes it out to be."
Well, I found the right woman, and I married her. We both agree marriage and parenting are every bit as challenging as we heard they were. And worth it.
These were my experiences. You've probably had your own.
The point from my life is that waiting for my circumstances to change has never worked for me. Believing that once factors around me got better, I'd get better always failed. No matter how much I believed it was the answer.
In E+R=O terms, because that's how I think, it sounds like this:
The quality of my life changes in line with the quality of my responses, not the quality of my events.
I thought I was waiting for events to happen, but I was really waiting for myself to act. Events don't change me. I change me. Events don't improve my life. I improve my life.
The time is now. Do the work.
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