If I didn’t think you’d receive any more critical feedback, I wouldn’t spend an entire week talking about it. But you’re not done yet. You will receive more criticism.
Some of it relevant, some of it not. Some of it deserved, some of it not. Some of it useful, some of it not.
And that’s only the criticisms you hear, the ones you actually discuss with people. There are other criticisms people have that you never hear because they never tell you. Maybe because they lack the courage to share that kind of honesty, but maybe because you make it too hard for people to tell you the truth.
People pay attention to how you receive and respond to criticism. If you’re known to listen and respond well, people will share more freely more often. If you’re known to react emotionally or defensively, people will stop sharing with you, sometimes entirely. They’ll talk about you but not to you.
They’ll decide it’s not worth it to even have the conversation with you. How do I know this? Because you make the same calculation with people in your life.
You have a sense of how people in your life receive and respond to criticism. You know the people who will hear a criticism and, rather than react, think. They’ll walk across the bridge and genuinely consider it. You share more with these people. You have better conversations, and likely, better relationships.
And you know the people who cannot hear a criticism without getting reactive, defensive, argumentative, playing the victim, or shutting down. You share less with these people. You have more surface conversations, and likely, more fragile relationships.
Which kind of person are you?
Which kind of person do you want to be?
Which kind of person will you be?
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