You want to make a good decision.

Taking in feedback doesn’t mean you have to absorb it as the absolute truth and it doesn’t mean you have to follow any advice they give you. You have to make your own decision and you want to make a good one.

When someone provides observations of your impact, consider it without impulsively rejecting it. Particularly when it hits a personal nerve. Feedback that is personal must have a good filter that prioritizes accuracy over emotion.

It can be emotional. You just can’t decide based on emotion. Does that difference make sense?

Remember, you want to understand the impact of your behavior and how you’re affecting the people around you. If someone makes the effort to share that with you, the least you can do is listen to genuinely understand. 

Especially if you’re going to decide the feedback isn’t accurate or some of it doesn’t apply to you.

Discipline is the shortcut. Do the work.