We’ve established the need for making responsive adjustments when things change and proactive adjustments when you want to improve something. There’s a third type of adjustment that is even more impactful.
The transformative adjustment.
This is not temporarily changing how you handle a set of circumstances. It’s changing yourself in a lasting way. It’s not simply adjusting how you approach a situation. It’s deeply shifting your mindset and behavior patterns to a new normal. You’re establishing a new way of living, at least in some part of your life.
Transformative adjustments are identity changers. They’re lifestyle transformations.
This kind of intentional transformation fascinates me, both in my own life and what I observe in others. Because even without intention, you have gone through transformation repeatedly through different stages of your life and in response to certain events.
The first few years after college, getting married, or having a child are big transformational windows for many people. Becoming a leader, moving cities, or starting a business can initiate transformation too. Sometimes transformation is triggered by epiphanies and painful moments. Divorce, death of a loved one, health scares, and near death experiences are examples of this.
One way or another you’re going to significantly transform at least a few more times in your life. That’s a given.
What’s not a given is whether you’ll wait to experience pain until you transform, which may not be a positive transformation, or whether you’ll take your life into your own hands and transform yourself through effort and skill.