Have you noticed that the people who justify complaining are never the people who solve big problems? Their complaining does nothing to advance the solution or solve the problem. It rarely adds clarity, even when they're right.
Complaining makes real problems worse and creates new problems where none previously existed.
People who argue that complaining is necessary, even beneficial, are not people who make situations better. They're the ones who make conditions worse. It might be a bad situation already, but a complainer can always make it worse.
You can't complain and solve problems at the same time. You just can't.
You can complain and then solve problems, but you can't solve problems while you're still complaining. And if you need to solve it, why waste time complaining about it and delay the solution?
Sometimes, you can't solve a problem. If you complain about those, you won't be able to move beyond them, either. That's a disastrous position: unable to solve it, unwilling to get past it.
You must solve the problems you can solve and move past the problems you can't. Keep complaining out of your life, and this will become possible. Keep it in your life, and it will stay impossible.
Brick by brick. Do the work.
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