You're trying to get better at patience, discipline, empathy, listening. All those behavior skills that matter in life.
But you may be approaching it wrong.
You think you need perfect conditions, detailed plans, and flawless execution. You overthink it, overplan it, and still don't do it consistently.
Leave that way of life behind.
The best way to get better at anything is to do it frequently. Not perfectly. Frequently. With any amount of consistency.
When you're working on behavior skills, that frequency looks like daily or weekly effort. Just showing up. Practicing. Doing the work.
Think about your favorite TV shows, podcasts, and websites. You watch, listen, and read every week. Maybe not on the same day or at the same every week, but you make sure you get to it. You get it done.
It's just part of your week. If you have a busy week, you just jump back in when you can. You don't overthink it. You don't overplan it. But you always do it.
That's the prize you're after. That same mindset, that same simple consistency, but applied to building yourself instead of entertaining yourself.
Now you have the “secret”. Transfer the exact mindset and pattern you have with your favorite shows to your personal skill-building.
Schedule it if you want, but keep it flexible. Stay flexible if you want, but keep some kind of schedule. One way or another, get it done. Just like anything else that must get done.
Your patience practice? Scheduled, but flexible. Your discipline work? Part of your week. Your listening skills? Come back to it if you drift away.
No overthinking. No overplanning. Just consistent effort on skills that matter.
You already know how to do this. You do it every week with plenty of things. Now do it with skill training.
Event + Response = Outcome. Do the work.
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