Why does growth require grief?

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Brian Kight

I can't wait to meet my 12-year-old daughter. Something about that window of time between a father and daughter feels special to me. 

Seeing her become her own person, experiencing her emerging personality, and doing my best to guide her through some challenges and let her figure out others independently.

I look forward to that time of our relationship, challenges and all.

But, right now, my daughter is only four.

If I'm going to meet my 12-year-old daughter one day, I have to lose my 4-year-old daughter. And I adore my 4-year-old daughter. She is the light of my life and joy of my day.

To be a great father for her, I must evolve and grow with her.

If I'm going to be a great father to my 12-year-old daughter, I'll have to let go of my 4-year-old daughter. She won't be then who she is today. That means I can't be the same father then as I am now.

Letting go is part of life. A tricky part, but a necessary part.

It's not just letting go of good to achieve great. Like with my daughter, it's also transitioning from one form of greatness to a different form of it. They're both great, both worthy, both cherished, both uniquely special. But they're different versions. Different stages. Different seasons.

Things grow. They mature. They change. They advance.

Even though you love who you are and what you have now, you're not done yet. There is more for you to experience and accomplish. New levels of excellence to reach. More transitions to navigate.

Get started with this downloadable worksheet I created for you.

Sometimes, the price of access to the next level of excellence means losing the current version.

And that's ok. More than ok. It's necessary.

Brick by brick. Do the work.

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