If you want to hold a standard that you worry will make you stand out, make up your mind whether you’re committed to fit in at a lower standard or you’re committed to live a higher standard. You don’t have to do anything yet, and it may be emotionally difficult, but do the work to make up your mind.
If you choose to live the higher standard, you will likely break an existing pattern or expectation in relationships. It will make you stand out but doesn’t mean you’re breaking those relationships. Some people just need time to adjust. Others will test you, usually unconsciously, to measure your resolve. Remember they didn’t choose that standard, you did. They are free, like you, to make their own choices.
If you choose to fit in, you need to accept your situation, drop your desire for different outcomes, and quit complaining about your experience. Embrace your relationships and acknowledge the available options you’re choosing to avoid.
Once you’ve made up your mind, you know what comes next.
Embrace the chase. Do the work.
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