Start today and stay with it for at least six months

Change the question you ask yourself from, “Can I?” . . . to “Am I?”

Rather than, “Can I be that person?” Replace it with, “Am I being that person?”

Rather than, “Can I forgive them?” Replace it with, “Am I forgiving them?”

Rather than, “Can I do it?” Replace it with, “Am I doing it?”

“Can I?” tries to guess the future. That uncertainty feeds self-doubt.

“Am I?” clarifies the present. That awareness feeds self-control.

Embrace the chase. Do the work.