Let's look at two scenarios where we have the opportunity to be honest.
Scenario 1:
You are talking with a group of friends about another friend who is not present. Everyone notices similar behavior patterns in this other friend that are causing discomfort and disruption. You share your observations, the impact you see, what the experience is like for you, and what you wish this friend would do differently. Other people in the group share your assessment. It is a thoroughly honest conversation with nothing held back.
Scenario 2:
Your group of friends agreed that you are the best person to give feedback to this friend. You are now talking 1-on-1 with the friend described above. Suddenly, all the truth you expressed and heard about this person feels hard to share.
How is it that honesty flows free and easily, even enthusiastically, in Scenario 1, but in Scenario 2, honesty is suddenly hard?
Why are there different standards for whether honesty is easy or hard?
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