Life doesn’t care about your skill set. It doesn’t care what you’re comfortable with, what you prefer, or what kind of mood you’re in.
Some circumstances fit your skill set well. Other circumstances don’t. In E+R=O terms, sometimes your R is perfectly suited for the E. Sometimes it isn’t.
A parent who’s great with toddlers and bedtime routines may struggle more with teenage rebellion or adult kids. A leader who shines during a crisis may be disruptive during calm, steady periods.
Sometimes you have the skill but hate doing it. You’re capable, but you’re not in the mood. You can do it, you just don’t want to. It’s not about ability. It’s about attitude. It’s not about competence. It’s about preference.
But life doesn’t care what you prefer. It doesn’t provide you with circumstances that fit your skill set. It has no understanding of your skill set or your preferences. It has no concern for them either.
You get a healthy dose of circumstances you put yourself into and ones that insert themselves into your life. You must respond to both as best you can.
Preference or not. Skilled or not. Feel like it or not. Once the event happens, once you’re in it, you respond somehow.
The question is not, “How do I feel like responding?”
The question is, “What response will create the outcome I need?”
Event + Response = Outcome. Do the work.
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