There are times to initiate and times to separate. They look and feel similar in the moment. That’s part of what makes them difficult to decipher. The other is trying to determine the right vs wrong thing to do: Engage or withdraw? Step up or stand down?
You can burn through a lot of time and emotional cycles looking outside yourself for right vs wrong. External opinions and standards of right vs wrong in a moment aren’t the reference points to guide your decisions. Your understanding of right and wrong is what matters for you. Your standards are the reference point for your choices.
You need to decide when to lean in and when to sit back. Do it according to who you want to be.
Discipline is the shortcut. Do the work.
PS - So many of you take advantage (in a good way) of replying to these emails with your questions — about everything — and I love being able to reply. My only regret is that more people don’t get to see your impetus questions and the answers I take the time to reply with. So from now on, if you reply to any email from me with a question, I might answer it on my new YouTube show “Q&A with BK”. I’ll still answer you directly, but some of you ask such relevant questions that deserve a larger audience. So ask away! You may make it on the show!
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