Learn from your past. Correct your mistakes. Make decisions using the most accurate and up-to-date information. Sounds good, right? It is, but don’t expect people to respect you for it. Expect them to misunderstand, criticize, and question you.
The more you change your mind, the less people like it. Even when experience, maturity, or new information warrants a change. Even when the change is in total alignment with truth and effectiveness.
Truth is, people generally don’t want you to change your mind. They prefer you stay consistent with who you’ve been. That’s how they’ve labeled you, understand you, and interact with you.
Changing your mind forces people to adjust their assumptions about you. They must recalculate what they thought they knew about you.
In most cases, changing your mind forces others to change their minds about you somehow. That makes people uncomfortable, especially when it’s a change they didn’t choose.
It’s yet another example of an inescapable tension in life:
Stay consistent even when it’s inaccurate so you can maintain external approval? Or change your mind and risk criticism or rejection because of it?
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