I’ve built my life on a basic premise: If I execute simple skills with elite discipline I will create extraordinary results.
It’s part belief, part observation, part experience.
Deep down I believe it’s 100% true. I observe the majority of complainers lack discipline in simple skills while the majority of responsible people excel in at least a few simple things. I experience the impact in my own personal and professional life when I execute simple skills with elite discipline and when I don’t.
Observation and experience also shows me there are real trends in the skills people tend to lack discipline. Here are five easy-to-spot skills to observe. First look at your own behavior, discipline, and results. Personal responsibility always comes first. Then observe other people as you see and interact with them.
Listening: everyone knows to listen, but few do, and even fewer ever practice to get better at listening even while it creates crippling dysfunction and broken relationships.
Clarity: the first key to clarity is honesty and the second is an empathetic understanding of who is receiving the message.
Influence: we all want other people to do things, but how to do it well and make it a good experience is still a rarely practiced skill.
Decisiveness: making decisions as quickly and confidently as possible is less common than an underlying fear of making mistakes, being wrong, and being judged.
Adjustment: part of the reason people struggle with decisiveness is because they aren’t good at adjustments and feel trapped if their original decision wasn’t good enough.