Impulsive people hate this, but they need it.

Six disciplined ways to think about the value of your decisions and actions:

1. Surface the value you're trying to create with every decision and action. Make each one as conscious and clear as possible.
2. Earn value through your own decisions and actions. Don't wait to receive value through the decisions and actions of others.
3. Separate value that fundamentally improves your life from value that doesn't. Never confuse them. Never reverse them.
4. Get clear on value that lasts and value that doesn't. Focus 80% of your attention, time, and energy on what delivers lasting value. Cap yourself at 20% on transient value.
5. Observe with unflinching honesty what you do that adds value and what you do that doesn't add value. Consider what you're not doing that would add value if you did it.
6. Recognize the delayed impact of actions now that create value later. Identify actions that provide momentary satisfaction now but create problems later.

Brick by brick. Do the work.